How to use meditation to take the "difficult" out of "difficult situations - Art of Life Podcast
Learn practical ways to gain more control over your reactions to difficult situations, and how to use meditation as a tool for deeper self-understanding. 🌈
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[01:29] Understanding Difficult Situations
[03:12] Exploring the 'Why' Behind Difficult Situations
[07:08] Personal Experiences and Learning from Difficult Situations
[12:22] The Concept of Grounding and Its Importance
[16:55] Practical Grounding Meditation Session
[26:25] Closing Remarks and Future Programs
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Transcript
Welcome to the Art of Life podcast.
Speaker:I'm your host Kanika.
Speaker:I'm a meditation teacher and it is such a joy to welcome you to this episode.
Speaker:In the Art of Life podcast, we talk about how to heal our life, how to create a
Speaker:better version of our reality, to have more happiness, to have more joy, to have
Speaker:more success, and to have more abundance.
Speaker:Today we have a great topic.
Speaker:This is on how to handle difficult situations.
Speaker:It's personally the way for me and how I've used meditation
Speaker:to handle difficult situations.
Speaker:I wanted to give you a little bit of snippet into my life today and also
Speaker:show how meditation works for me, make it a little bit more clearer.
Speaker:And of course, if meditation isn't your style, that's absolutely okay.
Speaker:There would be other ways that you connect with yourself.
Speaker:And we can look at how you can utilize whatever works for you, whatever
Speaker:those activities are, but use them creatively that you can heal your
Speaker:life, that you can overcome difficult situations, and make them a lot easier,
Speaker:smoother, and sometimes even have more fruitful outcomes from them.
Speaker:Let's dive in.
Speaker:In terms of difficult situations, I was thinking of any conversation that
Speaker:you would be having, let's say with a manager, with a partner, with your kids
Speaker:as well, any disagreement on something.
Speaker:Another example of difficult situations could be the media and getting disturbed
Speaker:by something that you've read there.
Speaker:Maybe you opened the newspaper and there was something that's really
Speaker:shocking and very upsetting for your system, or you receive some news
Speaker:that's very upsetting, there's a post that you see that causes you some
Speaker:stress, that would be another example.
Speaker:And finally, I think a last category could be, some people,
Speaker:some situations that bug us.
Speaker:Maybe you're afraid of heights or perhaps, you want to do something, but
Speaker:there's something that holds you back.
Speaker:There's a person or there's a situation that doesn't quite align with you.
Speaker:We look at not all of these individually, but we'll tackle them in a big bucket
Speaker:called difficult situations and see how can we have more seniority
Speaker:in our life with any of this.
Speaker:It's basically life, right?
Speaker:Going up and down.
Speaker:And this episode is around building that resilience around difficult situations
Speaker:and not feeling as pushed over.
Speaker:Also having a lot more power, a lot more sense of self in all of these situations.
Speaker:The first way I look at any difficult situation, if I'm feeling triggered,
Speaker:is I start exploring the why.
Speaker:Or...
Speaker:Basically, why do I have this?
Speaker:Why am I attracting this?
Speaker:My belief is that whatever I'm attracting, whatever is manifesting in
Speaker:my life, somewhere I'm a match to it.
Speaker:Somewhere I'm in vibrational alignment with that.
Speaker:Now that might not be something that I've consciously done.
Speaker:Of course, I don't want to feel offended or triggered.
Speaker:I want to have the most peaceful life, like most people do.
Speaker:But at the same time, there would probably be something in my past life or
Speaker:something as a soul that I need to learn.
Speaker:And there's some sort of, match that I have.
Speaker:I'm a clairvoyant and I have gone to lots of psychic fairs, sometimes
Speaker:online, sometimes in person as well.
Speaker:And it's really amazing.
Speaker:There will be, even if I'm doing an individual reading or if I'm doing a
Speaker:reading in like a big dinner or something, the readings, the readies who will show
Speaker:up, they'll always bring up something where I have a match within myself.
Speaker:I will be looking at someone else and there will be something that
Speaker:I'll be seeing in their spirit side and I'll go, oh gosh, okay, that's
Speaker:what I need to look at as well.
Speaker:It's funny.
Speaker:And other times when I've approached other people as well for similar readings,
Speaker:and now since I've been studying all of this for a while, I have a good
Speaker:network when I do that, a lot of times we'll joke around, we'll go, okay, we
Speaker:are seeing this because we are actually still matching there somewhere and
Speaker:there's some pictures, there's some energy that we still need to clear up.
Speaker:That's perhaps a thought for you, like why do you have this?
Speaker:Let's say if you're having a disagreement with someone, the question could more be,
Speaker:well, why are you having the disagreement?
Speaker:What is the bigger lesson that you're supposed to learn?
Speaker:Even if otherwise...
Speaker:You look back at your life, you'll probably notice a pattern on a few things.
Speaker:Personally for myself, I know that in terms of relationships, I have
Speaker:really needed to learn to step up for myself, to look after myself, to be
Speaker:able to talk around my own boundaries.
Speaker:And each of my relationships, I felt I was getting a good deal at the time.
Speaker:But then again and again and again, that was the learning for me.
Speaker:Now, I could definitely go around and, think in my head that
Speaker:all those people are problem.
Speaker:That's why the relationship didn't work out.
Speaker:And perhaps that would be part of the story.
Speaker:The other part of the story is that I was the common denominator
Speaker:in all of those relationships.
Speaker:I was attracting all of those relationships.
Speaker:And unless I worked on my own pattern of being able to speak up for myself,
Speaker:of being able to talk around my own boundaries and say, Hey, this
Speaker:is what I like, and this is what I don't like, personally, for me, the
Speaker:relationship dial didn't move as much.
Speaker:I want you to think on a similar angle, think a little bit beyond the
Speaker:situation itself, like step back and try and think, is there a pattern?
Speaker:Is there something that your soul is trying to teach you at a bigger level?
Speaker:Now I'll give you another example, which actually sounds pretty simple.
Speaker:I recently lost my fob, when you want to come up or go out of my house, it's like
Speaker:an electronic fob that gives you access through the lifts and to the elevators,
Speaker:through the garage and everything.
Speaker:And I misplaced one of those.
Speaker:Well for some time I didn't even look in my meditation space and I was trying
Speaker:to find it, look at it all over my house and I couldn't find it I sat down
Speaker:in my meditation space and grounded.
Speaker:That's something actually that I'm going to talk about in the later part
Speaker:of the episode as well, how I did that.
Speaker:I grounded the fob.
Speaker:Basically looked at my own resistance and why was I not able to get
Speaker:a fob, like as simple as that?
Speaker:Why was I not able to find it?
Speaker:And I cleared up whatever resistance I had within myself.
Speaker:Forgot about it because I did this meditation almost sleepy
Speaker:before I was going to bed.
Speaker:And in the morning I got up with, like, the normal things, the
Speaker:normal routine of the day, and on.
Speaker:And there it was.
Speaker:I found the fob.
Speaker:Like, without even really putting as much of thought to it, and on.
Speaker:I needed to clear up something in me.
Speaker:I was angry.
Speaker:A little bit angry, a little bit frustrated with myself.
Speaker:How could I have been careless?
Speaker:Why did I do this?
Speaker:Very, very simple emotions that probably a lot of us can have.
Speaker:But I needed to process those emotions, release those.
Speaker:And the moment I released them, the moment I became ok with myself, I found the fob..
Speaker:That's a very simple example around why we are attracting
Speaker:certain difficult situations.
Speaker:My example is around a fob.
Speaker:Your example, your experience could be around somebody else or any other
Speaker:situation, particularly situations where you feel, hey, you're getting them again.
Speaker:Like you found a similar person again, you found a similar boss again.
Speaker:I want you to think why.
Speaker:and a bigger why than that person.
Speaker:Look at, hey, what is my lesson here?
Speaker:What is it that I need to work on?
Speaker:And then that's your resistance bit.
Speaker:That's what I'll share later on in the episode, in this very episode
Speaker:as well, how we can clear that.
Speaker:Everything is like an experience.
Speaker:I believe that as spirits our purpose is to experience.
Speaker:and evolve, to experience life and then to evolve as spirits.
Speaker:What I mean by that is, that like in the real world, we sometimes go out and have
Speaker:different cuisines, try them out, or we'll have different experiences, like
Speaker:maybe we'll go bungee jumping or we'll go river rafting or we'll take a walk and
Speaker:that's trying to explore some newness.
Speaker:The same way I feel the soul or the reason why we were born as a spirit, we
Speaker:want to experience different things and then have a sense of achievement that
Speaker:okay this happened and I know how to tackle the situation in the body as well.
Speaker:It's not something really serious.
Speaker:It's something more exploratory if you will, it's something trying to
Speaker:learn trying to have fun in life Think of dreams for example every
Speaker:night we have some dreams we get up in the morning We don't even remember
Speaker:them Or maybe we do sometimes.
Speaker:Life goes on and the dream is a dream.
Speaker:For our spirits, I sort of feel like each of our life or life experiences, they're
Speaker:like these little dream snippets as well.
Speaker:It's not super serious.
Speaker:The soul looks at that, goes like I tasted that.
Speaker:I had this experience with person A that felt really sad.
Speaker:Okay, that's what that feels like.
Speaker:Maybe then the soul goes, does something else, goes out of the
Speaker:beach and goes like, wow, I really liked getting my feet wet and on.
Speaker:That was a fun experience.
Speaker:But it's not really going as if the sad was bad, the happy was beautiful.
Speaker:The soul's purpose, or the spirit's purpose of evolution is simply
Speaker:evolution, is simply getting that seniority, getting that power
Speaker:with all of the situations, is...
Speaker:Going like, well, that happened and look, I could have my head
Speaker:held high and I could do this.
Speaker:I could still have seniority there.
Speaker:I still had my power.
Speaker:That's that.
Speaker:It's not super serious at a spirit level.
Speaker:The soul is trying to simply experience and evolve.
Speaker:Now moving on to grounding and how I use it to release resistance and to become
Speaker:more accepting of the change myself.
Speaker:As we get into it, grounding is like one of my favorite tools.
Speaker:Every single day I am grounding.
Speaker:Every single time I meditate this is like the first tool and
Speaker:they're often meditations where I will sit down and ground like,
Speaker:spend the whole time grounding.
Speaker:You probably have heard of grounding, or you've come across the
Speaker:definition, in some sense, anyway.
Speaker:Because usually when we're speaking, we'll say, Oh, like, this person is grounded.
Speaker:Or we'll say something like, Well, when I went for the bushwalk, I
Speaker:felt really grounded and centered.
Speaker:That gives you a clue already.
Speaker:Grounding is around feeling grounded.
Speaker:feeling centered.
Speaker:And how we do it in the meditation space is we imagine that there's a connection
Speaker:from us to the center of the earth.
Speaker:Typically the connection is from the first chakra in our body, which is
Speaker:the root chakra, it's survival chakra.
Speaker:It's literally around a safety security on earth.
Speaker:It's having everything on earth feeling okay and having or imagining
Speaker:a connection with the earth.
Speaker:When I Imagine this connection, and it doesn't have to be a deep trance,
Speaker:you can close your eyes but definitely if you feel like, hey, I'm not doing
Speaker:it perfectly, that's absolutely fine.
Speaker:It does not need to be perfect.
Speaker:As a spirit, everything that you are doing is in the right direction.
Speaker:It's exactly at the right place that you are supposed to be at.
Speaker:It's exactly at the right speed.
Speaker:It's absolutely fine.
Speaker:Take that pressure off.
Speaker:The spirit is very fluid in that sense, In the physical world as such, we
Speaker:really evaluate ourselves and we go like, well, did I do this right or not?
Speaker:Was this perfect or not?
Speaker:When you are in the meditation space, it doesn't have to be perfect.
Speaker:It can be very simple, very playful.
Speaker:The more playful you keep it actually, the better it is.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:As you're grounding you imagine like there's this connection with the
Speaker:earth and all I'll do is I'll have an intention that the earth can take away
Speaker:any negativity, it can take away any charge, it can take away any emotions,
Speaker:anything that's not serving me.
Speaker:Now the beauty with that is that I don't even know what is getting grounded.
Speaker:I'll still be releasing a whole lot more.
Speaker:As I've practiced over the years.
Speaker:I know that I now have more awareness about grounding than I did when I first
Speaker:started, and even then I get really amazed with how much we ground, with all the
Speaker:classes that I have done and when I've shared this tool around grounding, then
Speaker:I noticed that everyone is releasing a whole lot more than they realize.
Speaker:And that's probably the beauty with grounding as well.
Speaker:You can do it anywhere.
Speaker:Let's do a mini meditation today because this time, in this episode,
Speaker:I really wanted to give you tools and ways to have a better life
Speaker:without having to go to someone else.
Speaker:When you're ready, and when you are in a safe space, then I would
Speaker:encourage you to take 10 minutes and I'll share this tool with you.
Speaker:Ready means that you need to have a space where you can be quiet,
Speaker:where nobody's going to disturb you.
Speaker:I would also highly encourage that don't do this while you're driving.
Speaker:Because sometimes the energy release can be really a lot and it
Speaker:might get you unconscious and you don't want to have any accident.
Speaker:You want to be really safe be in a safe space be in a space where you can
Speaker:close your eyes be in a space where you can let go Of your attention for
Speaker:10 minutes won't be longer than that.
Speaker:Join me when you're ready.
Speaker:Cool, so let's imagine that you are in a place where you are by yourself, where
Speaker:you can take some time for yourself.
Speaker:All right, so sit down, put your feet on the floor, and breathe,
Speaker:exhale, let whatever stress you have, let that get out.
Speaker:And you can imagine the difficult situation that you're struggling
Speaker:with at the minute as well.
Speaker:You can have an intention that whatever difficult situation you have, whatever
Speaker:you're carrying in your body around this situation, that you can release it.
Speaker:Imagine there's a connection that goes from where you're sitting
Speaker:right to the centre of the earth.
Speaker:Sometimes I imagine that the chair that I'm sitting on, that extends all the
Speaker:way down to the centre of the earth.
Speaker:And then let the earth take away anything that is not serving you.
Speaker:You know the earth nourishes us.
Speaker:It looks after us, everything that we have right now in this body is on earth.
Speaker:We live, breathe on earth, we get our food on earth, we stay on earth, we have
Speaker:our house, we have our car, everything on earth, so earth's supporting us.
Speaker:And allow the earth to help you.
Speaker:You can say that, hey, I've got some negative emotions.
Speaker:I've got some charge, release that, take that all the way
Speaker:down to the centre of the earth.
Speaker:Breathe.
Speaker:And again, the focus doesn't have to be really sharp, even if your mind
Speaker:wanders, that's okay, bring it back.
Speaker:And maybe imagine that as you sit down, as you relax, from your
Speaker:body, you have like little ribbons going into the center of the earth.
Speaker:And all of these ribbons are stuff that doesn't serve you.
Speaker:So these ribbons could be maybe somebody else's idea, somebody else's
Speaker:thought, anything that makes you feel really frustrated, anxious about
Speaker:the situation, let that release.
Speaker:Watch the ribbons go.
Speaker:And you don't have to know what they are for, you can imagine that they're ribbons
Speaker:going away from your body and getting all the way to the centre of the earth.
Speaker:The earth's got a nice gravitational pull, so it takes all of them,
Speaker:takes all that negative energy that doesn't serve you, and takes it all
Speaker:the way to the centre, away from you giving you a nice safe space.
Speaker:So as this happens, you can let go of ideas of others, ideas of even yourself,
Speaker:that are not in your highest good.
Speaker:You can let them go away, breathe.
Speaker:If you feel there are any energy blocks, let them go.
Speaker:Anything in your space that holds you, that makes you feel a little tight or a
Speaker:little icky, you can let that go as well.
Speaker:Watch it being released.
Speaker:Imagine the earth takes it away and then with that, as the earth takes that
Speaker:away, there's a beautiful nourishing energy that comes from the earth and
Speaker:then that starts flowing up as well.
Speaker:This is this beautiful life giving earth energy and that starts flowing
Speaker:up your feet, comes up all the way to your first, then makes a little
Speaker:loop, goes back again into the earth, but cleans you, cleanses you.
Speaker:You can imagine that as the earth energy comes up, it cleans anything, any of the
Speaker:cracks, any of the dirty places where you needed to let something go, any of those
Speaker:nooks and corners, it takes away all the grime from there and fills it up with
Speaker:beautiful earth energy and brings it up.
Speaker:Watch that flow, or feel that flow flowing into you.
Speaker:And that's grounding.
Speaker:That's where you're grounding yourself.
Speaker:And now as you run this, think of the difficult situation that you're facing as
Speaker:well, and keep running the earth energy.
Speaker:But imagine that as you run the earth energy, That your difficult situation,
Speaker:it's getting eased, you know, all the resistance that you feel for it or
Speaker:whatever, it's not flowing very well in your body, it starts flowing really well.
Speaker:You don't have to solve it in the meditation space.
Speaker:That's the funny part.
Speaker:So if you feel like, hey, I want to like solve it or analyze
Speaker:this, you don't have to do that.
Speaker:Play like a little three year old kid.
Speaker:Even if you do something wrong, these meditations are so simple and so
Speaker:powerful either way that even if you are not doing them right, they're right.
Speaker:They are working exactly how they're supposed to do because at a
Speaker:spirit level, you know what to do.
Speaker:So imagine there's like a loop that's coming up of earth energy in your space,
Speaker:it's coming up from the earth, it's nourishing you, it's filling you up, it's
Speaker:giving you everything that you need to have, to have your say in the difficult
Speaker:situation, to make it easier for you, to make it smoother for you, to make it a
Speaker:lot better experience for you as well.
Speaker:Breathe, breathe and keep imagining the flow and watch the flow till
Speaker:it becomes really easy and smooth and then as that happens you can
Speaker:also shake your body a little bit.
Speaker:You released a whole lot of energy so you can give yourself permission to move
Speaker:a little bit, shake a little bit more and let the stagnant energy get away.
Speaker:The earth's doing a wonderful job at releasing any stress, any anxiety in
Speaker:your space, any, anything that was causing you any sense of trauma, all of
Speaker:that's getting released when you ground.
Speaker:So I highly encourage you to ground.
Speaker:And when you're ready, then you can open your eyes.
Speaker:And congratulate yourself for the beautiful job that you've done.
Speaker:Good, good job.
Speaker:So grounding is definitely really powerful.
Speaker:I would ask you to notice your situation, whatever you worked on.
Speaker:I would ask you to notice how that has shifted since your meditation.
Speaker:Sometimes, some situations can be really charged as well.
Speaker:Typically, like something that you're attracting at a family level, they
Speaker:can have a little bit more charge.
Speaker:Your life patterns can have a little bit more charge as well.
Speaker:And then you might need to do things a little bit more.
Speaker:Like you might need to ground a little bit more.
Speaker:You might need to do some other tools as well.
Speaker:But grounding is definitely a really, really great start.
Speaker:I highly encourage you to see what's happening and hit me up
Speaker:with the changes that you notice in your life with this as well.
Speaker:I have written an e book on grounding that gives you a little bit of
Speaker:theory, still keeps it very playful.
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Speaker:Thank you so much for tuning into this episode.
Speaker:Next week, we will come back with another one, but till then,
Speaker:thank you so much for listening.
Speaker:And if you find this podcast helpful, I would really appreciate
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Speaker:I really want to share these tools and tips to create a better life with everyone
Speaker:because I believe that these are tools we should all have to live a more grounded
Speaker:life, to live a more successful life.
Speaker:So your vote on this and your reviews will be really helpful.
Speaker:I will see you next time with another episode.
Speaker:Till then, wish you the very best.
Speaker:Keep grounding.
Speaker:Keep smiling.
