#18 Inner Abundance Embracing The Gift of Receiving - Art of Life Podcast

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Welcome to the Art of Life podcast.

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I am Kanika.

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I'm the host of this podcast and a meditation teacher.

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And it is such a pleasure to bring this podcast to you.

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What I'm trying to do is share how meditation changes my life and

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hopefully give you some mindsets and tips that might influence your life.

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I definitely encourage you to seek out your own answers, see what resonates

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with you and play with these ideas definitely in your own way, make them

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really unique and applicable to yourself.

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Today, I thought the topic that we can talk about is receiving.

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You know, giving and receiving, so I give something to someone and then I receive

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something and maybe it's not with the same person, maybe it's with somebody else.

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But often, we could have some mindset blocks around receiving.

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I know for myself, I definitely did.

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If I go back to the time when I got out of a relationship that wasn't working

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for me, I had a whole lot of unworthy pictures and being invalidated pictures.

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So I remember this particular time, I was reconnecting with a friend,

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and she wanted to pay for coffee.

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And I couldn't accept that, like it wasn't the biggest amount in the world, but I

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was like, what, I've got to go and get my money out, or like pay for it before she

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can get her card out, and she's like, hey, it's on me, like next time you can pay.

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And I made sure I had my card out before that, and I paid for it.

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But in the background as I was meditating, I was also trying to see, well..

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, is this really healthy?

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Because this wasn't the first person that I tried to do that.

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It didn't matter how comfortable I felt with someone.

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It was hard for me to receive.

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Simple things, like even receiving a compliment.

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Really hard.

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You know, somebody would say, Hey, you look nice.

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I would go like, Yeah, but that is because the dress looks nice

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or so on or something like it was really hard to accept something.

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It was really hard at the same time to even speak for myself.

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There was a time in our company where we were exchanging Christmas gifts.

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So, essentially, we had Christmas gifts lying on the table, and each one of us was

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taking rounds, and we were saying, well, that's the package I want, and we would

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talk the color or describe the package that we wanted, and we would open it.

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So, we'd all pitched in, and we were sharing that.

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And there was one that I wanted.

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And when I said that, the girl over there, she misunderstood, and she

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said, Well, no, you can't ask for the present that you've put on the table.

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And I hadn't.

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I hadn't put that one.

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I was asking for a different one.

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But somehow, I didn't have that much, voice to be able to say that, hey,

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that's what I want, and this is what I did not put myself, I'm not asking

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for something that I bought myself.

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But I couldn't do that.

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So your receiving could probably also be linked to how much are you really standing

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up for yourself even in the smallest of things, even in the smallest of scenarios.

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As I looked at it for myself and probed deeper into the energy of receiving,

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I realized a couple of things.

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For me, there was...

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A whole programming concept around being a good girl, good girls give,

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good girls do a lot, good girls are very caring, very nurturing,

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they carry a whole lot of burden.

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But they don't ask back.

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So how that played out for me was, it was very happy in terms of giving

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my time, my thoughts, my actions, and doing a whole lot of stuff, like I would

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buy lots of gifts for people, I would really go out of my way to help people,

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sometimes people I didn't even know as much, but I took a lot of pride in that.

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Even if I felt exhausted and tired, I took a lot of pride in helping everybody.

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Money came into it as well, like I would feel really comfortable doing

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something for someone, but if someone gave me a gift, oh my God, that was

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so hard to accept and internally I would be thinking, what do I now do?

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Because how do I make up for it?

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How do I sort of equal the equation, and in my terms the equation

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meant, well, I have to give more, I definitely cannot receive.

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The universe actually doesn't work like that.

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The universe doesn't want you to be depleting your energy, because if you

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are giving and giving and giving, well, then essentially you're only giving,

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and there's nothing left for you.

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Let's say if you had a glass of water and you were giving

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out your water to everybody.

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Eventually the water runs out and then you have nothing left for yourself.

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You have nothing left for others around you either.

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So it's not a good equation.

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The universe wants you to be in harmony.

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The universe wants both the scales to balance and for both the scales to balance

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there's got to be an equal amount of receiving and an equal amount of giving.

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Giving and the receiving might not be from the same person, might

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not be from the same situation.

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It can be different forms of giving and receiving.

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But generally, overall, you want to feel that you are getting enough.

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So, if you are in a job, you want to feel like you're being paid, rewarded

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for the work that you're doing.

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You might feel like you're putting in a whole lot more, but then the understanding

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should be that they're putting in a whole lot more to either help you

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monetarily or with flexibility or with giving you learning options that help

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you succeed in your career later on.

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If you have a relationship, you want to feel nurtured in that relationship.

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Typically the adult relationships, maybe with kids, it's a little bit

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different because they're younger.

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But with adult relationships, you want to feel like you're validated.

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You want to feel like you're seen, valued, heard as a minimum, because if

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none of these things happen, or If one of these things doesn't happen, it's

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bound to cause frustration in some time.

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You know, if you feel like you are looking out for the other person, and somehow you

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are not feeling enough with that, then I urge you to start thinking around what

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can you do so that you start validating yourself and maybe take baby steps.

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So take baby steps , if you feel there's a relationship that doesn't feel right, you

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don't have to automatically block it off, but you could probably reduce the time.

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You could try and set the boundaries around it.

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Perhaps voice up in time, baby steps, that there are certain things that you don't

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like, this is how you would prefer it.

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Relationships will evolve, sometimes people will understand that this

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is your new boundary and this is the new person who's shining up

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and who's wanting to have more.

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Some relationships will be okay with that and some relationships

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won't be and that's like life.

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Seasons weather it changes so does life and that's okay it's a part of life

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.Essentially when you are wanting to receive, you are telling the universe

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that, Hey, I'm ready to receive more.

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You know, a lot of times when you're wanting to manifest something,

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there's a dream that you have.

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So around that you want the universe to feel you are ready and raising

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your vibration around receiving.

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That's a big step in that direction because the universe wants to

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give you what you are asking for.

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But the universe is also looking, are you ready?

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If you are not able to hold it, the universe can't give it to you.

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So start with the baby steps, like I will not try and pay for a coffee

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if somebody's buying me a coffee, I'll go like, Hey, thank you.

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If somebody passes a compliment, I'll go, Hey, thank you.

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I have also had more people giving me things and going like, Hey,

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I, saw this and I thought of you and I thought you would like it.

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And now I go, yeah, thank you so much.

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It's so amazing that you thought of me here.

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I'm so...

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happy that you got this for me.

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But accepting things without a regret.

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We can be programmed to have guilt around receiving and I want you to

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at least look if you can let that go.

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Personally for me a lot of times how I work with things is that I meditate.

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So I have a little short meditation right now on receiving and before you go ahead

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with this portion of the podcast I would ask that be in a safe space where you

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can take your attention off for some time.

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Ideally, podcasts are absolutely great way to listen while you are driving, but maybe

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for this meditation, you can probably listen to it, but probably do it when you

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are in a nice space where you can have your attention off for a few minutes.

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Alright, so when you're ready, close your eyes, put your feet on the floor.

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And again, no problems if you really can't, that's okay.

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I really feel meditation sort of works with you, at least the

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style of meditation that I teach.

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Nothing's got to be perfect.

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I encourage you to be in the space of like a three year old kid.

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So what that means, a three year old kid, is that even if you are not 100 percent

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there, even if you feel like, hey, I'm not 100 percent getting it, that's okay, a

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three year old child will go with the flow and sometimes it's not perfect, they're

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not evaluating themselves that much.

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You know, the mind still kicks in and we analyze, but I highly

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recommend go with the flow and enjoy.

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Okay.

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So when you're ready, close your eyes and take a breath,

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another one, and another one.

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The breaths allow you to get into your body.

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It's you saying hello to yourself and stepping in like, Hey, I'm here.

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I'm ready to be present.

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And as you notice your feet touching the ground, then you can imagine your

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feet really extending into the earth.

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Just play with the imagination like a three year old child.

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And imagine that they're going all the way to the center of the earth.

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The earth is our all nourishing, all giving earth.

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It's given us everything that we have in this lifetime.

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Our house, our relationships, everything that we eat, we drink.

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That comes from Earth somewhere.

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So as you connect with the earth, allow the earth to give you its beautiful

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earth energy and start flowing that through your legs, breathe, it's okay,

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Notice what you notice, notice the feet touching your ground.

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And then maybe you feel some sensations from the earth coming up and let

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them come up your leg channels.

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Coming up your feet, your ankles, your calves, your knees, your thighs.

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And then running up as well and also running down your leg channels again.

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Notice how that's really relaxing and as you bring this vibration, you can allow

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the earth to really heal and nourish you.

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You can ask the earth that, hey, wherever I have some blocks around

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receiving, can you clean those for me?

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And let the earth do it's job, the earth wants to give you, the

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earth's always wanting to give you.

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So let the earth give to you.

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Now up above you are the cosmos, or the universe, imagine the

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energy coming from there as well, it's flowing through your crown.

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And then going down the back of your spine, coming all the way to where you're

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sitting, mixing up with the earth energy.

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And then maybe where you're sitting, it mixes with that and

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then starts flowing up again.

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So it starts flowing up your body again.

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It's like a little loop, the universe is also showering on you it's

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blessings, it's love, it's validation, it's support for you and all of that

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is flowing through into you coming down from the back of your spine and

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then going back up from the front.

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Just imagine these energies running through you, both of them giving you,

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both of them nourishing you, healing you, and you can have your intent

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that, hey, wherever I'm not letting things come to me, clean that out for

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me, and let the energies do their job.

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So up above, when you're bringing the energy from the universe, that's what we

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call the cosmic energy or sometimes a life force, so that's running through you, the

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earth energy is running through you and both of them are healing and cleansing.

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They're running through your space, through your body and

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cleaning out any blockages.

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and really filling you up.

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You can imagine beautiful golden sparkles filling your space and all of these

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golden sparkles are bringing you in a much higher vibration and they're all bringing

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you to a place of readiness to receive.

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Notice what you notice, notice how you feel.

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You could even imagine the universe up there cheering for you, clapping for you.

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It's a beautiful place to feel supported and loved.

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And as you keep running this energy and saying hello to the cosmos, saying hello

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to the earth as well, you can have a little chat there too with mother earth.

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You could go like, Hey, I'd like to receive, do you have a message for me?

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You can have the same one for the forces above for the universe.

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You can ask, Hey, do you have a message?

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What would you like me to receive?

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And then notice if any thoughts come in.

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Why don't you bring in now some vibrations of what you would

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like to bring in to your life.

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Baby steps work.

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So start with small things.

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Maybe if you're like me, you would want to have free coffees.

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So bring in free coffees and tell the universe and tell the earth that,

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hey, I want some free coffees, please.

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You could ask for free compliments, you could ask for some gifts,

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you could ask for things that you wanted and say, I want this.

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I want some love.

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I want some validation, ask that.

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And let that flow through your space and as that's flowing, allow

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the earth to cleanse you, allow the universe to cleanse you as well.

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Just let them release any blockages, any place where you're holding

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any confusion or programming that prevents you from receiving.

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Just let the energy run.

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And breathe.

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And then as you're coming to a close, ask the earth and the universe to pour in the

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highest gold into you, the highest gold vibration, your purest gold vibration.

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Ask them to bring that into you and fill you up with this beautiful

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energy capable of receiving.

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Notice how that shifts your energy.

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Good, great job.

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So when you're ready, you can open your eyes.

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So that definitely feels a lot more refreshing and calmer.

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I'd like you to notice what, what shifts for you and of course you're more than

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welcome to do the meditation again.

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I'll pull the meditation out and put a separate link on YouTube as well.

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So that will be for you if you want to play it again.

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I did also want to end with one of the freebies that I offer.

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I am sharing a grounding ebook.

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So grounding was the portion of the meditation that we did earlier very

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much in the beginning where we connected with the earth, the grounding ebook

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goes into a little bit more detail and it talks about grounding, what we can

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achieve with grounding, feel a lot more relaxed and be ready to receive more.

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You are welcome to reach out for this book at artoflifecenter.com/grounding.

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This is of course free for you.

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Then you'll get some tips around being grounded and manifesting

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more in your lives as well.

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So I really hope I will see you there and be able to share the book with you.

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If you have enjoyed this podcast, I would love for you to leave a review

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or share it with your friends because that's how the word spreads around.

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My mission is really to share with everybody how they can shift their life

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because I have been at a really low point in my life myself, where I started

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meditating and then meditation helped me shift that whole vibration into a

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place where I'm absolutely loving life.

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And I would love nothing more than being able to share this gift with

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the whole world and reach out to more and more people to make their lives

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more happier and more meaningful.

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So if you can help with that, I would totally, totally appreciate it.

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You see, there I go with receiving.

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All right.

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Thanks a lot for tuning in.

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I will see you next week with another episode.

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Have a lovely day.