#12 You Are Enough Redefining Self-Love and Wholeness – Art of Life Podcast

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Hi, and welcome to the Art of Life podcast.

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So this is a podcast where we talk about healing our life through grounding,

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through other tools and techniques, and making everyday life better for us.

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So welcome to today's episode.

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Today we are talking about, am I enough?

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So you've probably heard of that affirmation and maybe

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that resonates with you.

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Maybe it doesn't completely resonate yet.

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So, let's dive in.

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I have to be honest, this is a podcast that I've recorded twice.

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So usually I'll record a podcast and that's done.

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But with this one, I definitely had my own blocks around am I enough?

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So I had to work through those.

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I had to up level before I could bring this one to you.

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I really hope you enjoy this one because it definitely had a journey for me.

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First up, let's talk about what does I am enough mean, right?

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To me, I am enough means I'm complete.

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Means that I am fully capable of experiencing anything that I want.

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I am complete.

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By myself, I'm fully capable of doing anything that I want by myself.

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And no matter how I am, like I might feel, I can't bake a bread.

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Honestly, I can't, but if I wanted to, and if I put my

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mind to it, then I can do that.

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So I am enough.

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to be able to bake a bread if I put my mind to it.

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I'm enough to be able to climb a mountain if I put my mind to

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it, my mind and my heart to it.

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That's the definition.

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Now let's look at an example.

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Let's talk about baking.

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I actually love to bake.

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And when you bake, you'll put some eggs, you'll put some flour,

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you'll put some baking powder.

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sugar, salt, everything.

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And then you bake.

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Now, all the ingredients are different.

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So an egg is different from sugar and salt, obviously,

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but they all have their place.

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They all come together well in the cake.

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Now, an egg could really wonder.

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And look at the flour and go, well, you know, I'm not like the flour or

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I'm not the chocolate powder in there.

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That's absolutely true.

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But the cake wouldn't be made without the egg.

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Right?

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So everything in life has a place.

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Often where you feel like you're lacking something, that's the exact place

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where it's just a matter of growth.

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It's a matter of pushing it just a little bit more to be able to connect with

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your own strength and your capability.

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So you are complete as you are.

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Before I dive in, I'll go into a story.

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So there was an author called Napoleon Hill.

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Maybe you've heard of his book called Think and Grow Rich.

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He had a son called Blair and his son was born deaf.

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He literally didn't have ears.

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And Napoleon being Napoleon, he did not accept that his son would not hear.

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Throughout as Blair grew up, of course, there were challenges.

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He was not able to hear properly.

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So they got him some phonographs and things and teachers, everybody would be

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just speaking very loudly to him, almost shouting so that he could understand.

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He went to normal schools.

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They all had a really hard time with the school as well, because

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often the conversation would be why you're not sending him to a

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school that's made for deaf people.

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They had that constant fight and struggle.

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And every time Blair felt down, his dad would always go up to him and

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say, "Well, this is not a liability.

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You not having your ears is not a liability.

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It's an asset.

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" Long story short, there's one day where Blair gets Hearing devices.

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He's fiddled with hearing devices earlier, but this one special for

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the first time he's able to listen.

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This company I think was called Dictograph.

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He ends up finally working for this company.

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Now how the whole story makes sense is because when he starts working

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for Dictograph, it's the first time for a company developing hearing

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aids to have someone who is deaf, but who's able to explain to them,

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who's able to articulate to them what it really means for a deaf person.

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Essentially, his liability, not having ears, that was an asset.

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And you only sometimes see your asset a few years forward, right?

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You don't see it right at that point in time.

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Maybe there are places where you have pushed yourself.

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So you wanted to run, you wanted to win a race, but you were not

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a really good runner, but you kept practicing and , did well.

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All of those, they are your assets.

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That wasn't a liability that you weren't able to run.

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So in that sense, I ask you to think about I am enough again, think about

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in the sense of your completeness.

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If you feel you are lacking somewhere, that's the exact place

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where the universe will show up.

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It's the exact place where you as a soul want to work.

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It's the exact place where it's your purpose.

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It's your soul purpose to push through that to find the strength in that.

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Let's look at it another way.

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I often get a question around, well, will I ever feel enough?

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I hear the stories and I hear what you're saying, but will I ever feel enough?

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Now let's go back to when you were born.

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Right.

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And when you were born, when you were a little baby, that time you cried.

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If you wanted milk, you cried.

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If you wanted to have a change, you cried.

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Somewhere along the line, as you're growing up, what happens is, parents

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come in, society comes in, teachers come in, other people we like, our

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friends, they all come in and we start evaluating ourselves through someone else.

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If I go back to the baking story.

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The eggs, the flour, the sugar, salt, all the ingredients in

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the cake, they all have a place.

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But, unless the egg really starts comparing itself to, let's say, the

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flour or the sugar, The egg's complete.

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It's when you start comparing, when you start looking at something

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else, Oh, this person has this.

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Oh, this person was born in this family.

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Why can't I be born in this family?

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Why do I not have that?

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But step back a little bit.

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You are thinking of yourself as a human being that you are, but you are first

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and foremost a soul that has a body.

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So, let me say that again.

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First and foremost, you are a soul, you are a spirit that has a body.

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So, your soul's purpose, that was something you already decided before

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you came on earth, before you got this body, you already decided.

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And maybe you decided to have some of the difficult experiences you have.

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You definitely also decided some of the really fun experiences you have.

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All of that is your purpose.

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You know, like when you wanted to bake a cake.

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That was the purpose of making the cake.

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So when you come as a soul, you've already decided these

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are things I want to work on.

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Sometimes maybe you want to work on your resilience.

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Sometimes maybe that goal is to write a book.

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All of those things that sort of is your purpose, that sort

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of is your journey in life.

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That's the life experience you want to have.

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So the bits where you feel, Hey, I'm not complete, I don't really have this, I

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don't know how to publish my book, I don't know how to make it really successful

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- you don't have to solve the whole puzzle.

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Do the little bit.

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You start doing the little things, the next thing will show up.

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You are enough means that you are fully complete.

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You've got the resources right now.

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You've got the talent right now.

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You've got everything right now that you need to have at this point in

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time, you don't need to know the whole story, you don't need to know the

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whole staircase and where it goes to.

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One step at a time.

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You do a little bit and then you come to the next step.

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Let's say you want to start writing a book.

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You start writing it.

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There are little chapters or maybe sometimes even fragments of ideas.

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You start doing that slowly and slowly.

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The next bit will come.

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And you will evolve and you will grow.

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The next bit of resources that you need, the next bit of people that

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you need, the next bit of connections that you need, you will get that.

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Take the first step.

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You are complete is around trusting that whole process, having faith

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in yourself that you are complete, that you've got what it takes.

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You are complete is that every idea that you have, everything that you

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want to create, it's all possible.

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You are able to do it.

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And that's the magic of it.

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You don't have to know the whole picture then, but it's just trusting

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and it's just knowing that whatever you wanted to do, you could do whatever

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you wanted to create, you could create.

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You have the right answers.

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You have the right people in your life.

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So you are enough.

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You have everything right now to be on your path.

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Think of it another way as well.

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If you knew the whole story, like if you knew, , I'll do step one, then, this

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person comes into my life and this person introduces me to person Z who I need

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to get that book published, let's say.

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Then that puzzle is solved.

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Then the life experience isn't that fun anymore.

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I encourage you to think about your life just as an experience, think of

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it that you've come here to have fun.

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And keep the faith that you are enough, that you are complete.

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I encourage you to think about times where you felt you were not enough, where you

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felt you couldn't stand up to someone, where you felt you couldn't take an exam.

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Think of those times when you've conquered them.

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A lot of times as human beings, we are wired into a negative spiral thinking.

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We automatically think the worst case scenario.

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It's not going to work out.

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This is what I want, but it's never going to happen.

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We're sort of wired for that and you can change your channel.

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You can change your channel to go, I am enough.

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I have enough.

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Think of the past stories, your own past stories, where you have done well,

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where you have done something that you in the beginning felt I couldn't, and

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I'll give you a couple of examples.

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You know, as a baby you were sitting there and you didn't know how

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to walk and you probably do now.

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There was a time when you didn't know how to read, you do, there was a time

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maybe you didn't know how to cycle, you didn't know how to swim, you

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didn't know lots and lots of things.

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You never thought you would pass that exam and you did.

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You never thought you would be able to stand up to someone, you never

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thought you would be able to do a physical challenge, but you did.

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So congratulate yourself on that and congratulate yourself on all the

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past victories that you have had.

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You are complete.

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For each of those circumstances, you did not know how you will

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start reading, for example.

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You know, as a baby, all you see is little words and all these people are saying some

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language they don't always understand.

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But a baby doesn't stand there and go, I can't do this.

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I can't do this.

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I can't do this.

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A baby goes, well, you know what, I'm going to fumble and try actually

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doesn't even think too much.

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A lot of times you'll see little kids when they want to start walking,

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they'll walk a little bit, they'll fall down, but they don't give up.

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They don't have the negative chatter in their mind.

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Like I can't do this.

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They'll usually just get up and walk again and, you know, maybe throw

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something else or fall down themselves.

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That's just part of growing up to give yourself a break.

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You know, wherever you think that you are not complete, wherever you think that you

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are not enough, give yourself a break.

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Coming back to me, as I was recording this episode, when I recorded it

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the first time, there were certain things around myself where I was

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thinking, well, you know am I enough?

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Am I enough with the art of life?

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I had some of those questions and I really had to just do some work

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around it and think, no, that's okay.

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You wouldn't be having an idea unless there was a possibility, you

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wouldn't be having an idea unless it was possible to create and really

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bring in physical life as well.

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So you are enough for whatever you want, for creating a relationship, for having

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the best job, for getting promoted.

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You are absolutely enough.

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Just right as you are exactly with your experience, with your

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height, your looks, everything.

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You are absolutely perfect.

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Perfect.

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You have everything.

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So how do you feel enough?

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Like every day how do you feel enough?

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What can you do so that you start imbibing that and feeling that more and more again?

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The first thing is just remind yourself, write down at a lot of

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places, even on the mirror, if you want to write down, I'm enough and

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write down I'm complete as I am.

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You don't need to change for anybody else.

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You don't need to Be a different person for anybody else, whatever

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you want, whatever love you want, whatever manifestation you want,

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it will all happen just as you are.

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You don't need to change yourself for anybody.

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If anything.

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Look at the labels that you are putting on yourself.

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Let's say a thought comes to you and you say, Oh my God, I

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always am clumsy, for example.

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And just think, who is the person who says that?

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Is that you?

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Is that someone else who said that to you and then separate, come

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back to yourself, come back to yourself as you were as a baby.

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And allow yourself to vibrate in that space.

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As a baby, you cried for milk, for changing, for anything that you needed.

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As a baby, you knew that it was your birthright to have those

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things, to have that love and care.

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It's the same.

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right now.

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You don't have to ask anybody else.

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You can give yourself that.

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Don't look at what a teacher told you, what a parent told you

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about how you are not enough.

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Don't play that channel.

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Play your own channel.

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Play how you are complete.

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Play how you have done great things.

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Play how you will do great things.

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The universe really wants you to tap into yourself because

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that's your inherent nature.

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You as you are, are totally complete.

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And with your specific Skills, your body shape, your thoughts, exactly as you

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are, you have the perfect place on earth.

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You wouldn't have been born if you didn't have the place.

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Anything that goes in the cake, it has a purpose.

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Even the salt, a tiny little bit of salt has its own purpose.

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Cake's a little bit different without the salt.

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Similarly, you, as you are, are really required.

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You with your unique talent, your abilities, you are absolutely

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complete and you make the whole world complete by just being here.

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I hope that leaves you with enough encouragement.

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I am offering a program called the Life Makeover Program.

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It's very simple and fun.

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It is all art therapy based.

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What I've talked about today is tiny bit of the introduction.

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Basically we have five modules covering things like time, our relationships,

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connecting with our own bodies, our intuition, healing past traumas.

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Every single hour of art therapy gives you something, makes

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tangible change in your life.

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You notice an improvement.

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And it's not hard.

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It's just art therapy.

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You sit down, you play with a little child's energy.

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So I say a three year old space.

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You don't need to be perfect.

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It's absolutely fun, very judgment free, very loving, very playful.

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Definitely a whole lot magical.

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That's called the life makeover program.

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You can find it at artoflifecenter.

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com slash art.

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There's also another freebie that I'd like to share.

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It's called the grounding book and I highly recommend grounding.

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Grounding is a technique that allows you to be in the present, wherever you

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are, whatever is happening in your life.

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It's really simple.

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It's simple.

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You could even do it while you're standing in a grocery store.

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I'm sharing this grounding ebook as well.

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If you wanted it, go to artoflifecenter.

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com slash grounding.

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Again, a very playful way to start releasing stress and anxiety.

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So definitely check out the free resources and I'll see you next time on another

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episode of art of life podcast till then keep having fun, keep loving yourself

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and remembering that you are complete.

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You are enough.

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You wouldn't be on this earth if you weren't.

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You, as you are, are perfectly appreciated, perfectly loved,

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perfectly capable of reaching your unlimited potential.

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And here's to you.

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See you.

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Take care.