#8 Proven Techniques to Heal Your Past – Transform Your Life - Art of Life Podcast

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Welcome to the Art of Life Podcast.

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I'm Kanika.

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My purpose with this podcast is to share tips on how you can start

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creating a better life simply by playing with your imagination.

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You can heal past pain and traumas, and you can create the high vibration life

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that you wanted simply by being in a kid's space and just playing a little bit.

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So let's dive straight in.

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We will talk about healing your past , the steps to letting go and moving forward.

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This comes on the back of my meditation and art therapy class, healing

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your past that I just finished.

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While I was teaching my students, I of course do the work for myself as well.

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And my own past life pattern has been that I give way too much, and I keep

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on giving, especially if I feel a relationship is just not working out.

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It could be with anybody, could be with a friend, could be a significant

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relationship with a partner as well.

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So I was working on this and I was working why I have this pattern.

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And turns out that I actually do this because there's just a deep

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fear of loneliness that I have.

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As I was doing this class, healing Your Past, this was my opportunity

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to work through this whole trauma around just feeling scared, being

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alone, and because of that fear, just trying to keep giving and giving.

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So as I did the class, I healed some pictures.

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I looked at these patterns for myself, and I definitely came

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out feeling a lot lighter.

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Just before the class, I was feeling a lot heavier about some of the

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stuff that had been coming up.

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That's sort of a natural thing with all of these classes as well, I would

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say the pictures, the emotions, they start coming to surface because your

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body just is ready and it knows, okay, we are releasing and letting go.

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And then we had the class, and then after the class I felt perfectly okay

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and even the emotions that were happening and where I was feeling charged and

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a little bit on the edge, a little emotional, all of that went away and

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suddenly it was like, mm-hmm, I've got it.

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It's all good.

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So great.

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Now one of the questions that I got from the student was around how

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can meditation heal past trauma?

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This was just before we started the class.

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To answer that, well, basically everything is energy, right?

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So whether it's about healing your past, that's energy.

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Whether it is maybe just healing a relationship, looking at a relationship,

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creating a relationship, creating a job, creating a business or even letting go

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of a business that's not working for you.

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Anything, any, any space, anything is energy.

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What you essentially do in a meditation space is you just

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separate yourself from that energy.

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When you separate, that allows you to see the energy for what it

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is, and then you can clean it out.

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I give an example of like a balcony and a dance floor.

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Imagine there's a dance floor at the ground level, and when you are right in

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it, then you've got people around you.

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You've got all of this noise, so much is happening, you don't really know what

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is happening in the whole room, right?

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When you are in a meditative state, you can actually be up on top at the balcony.

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And from the balcony you can see everybody.

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You can see the guy who's not really dancing well.

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You can see somebody who's making like really cool moves.

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You can see somewhere how maybe some people are having too much to drink.

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You can see, you can see the DJ playing his music.

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You can really see the whole scene.

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But because you can see the whole scene and you are detached from it, you can make

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your mind around what's not serving you.

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You can just decide because it is your body, it is your space.

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You can decide, well, maybe I wanna change the music here.

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You could change the music if you felt that those people who were

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on the dance floor and they were causing a little bit of a ruckus.

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With alcohol, if you decide you can let them go, cause you are

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on the balcony, it is your space.

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And maybe let's say you make up your mind and you go, oh,

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I don't want the dance floor.

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Like it's way too noisy.

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It's so many people, I don't want them.

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You can decide to let it all go and suddenly you can have a very

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nice quiet place for yourself.

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That's probably a simpler way of explaining what meditation

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does and how it separates you.

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Healing your past is working in the same way as well in a meditation class.

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In the meditation class, you are looking at why you have past trauma and then

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again you are seeing all the dance that plays out, why the dance plays

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out, how the people are there, what is the other energy that's coming.

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Maybe there are some negative beliefs or there's some social conditioning, some

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past programming, you just see all of that from a distance and then you decide

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that, oh, this doesn't work for me.

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When I talk about my own self , I was trying to work on this, pattern for

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myself where I keep giving and keep giving because I'm so scared at letting go.

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That's exactly what I looked at.

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I looked at why was I scared at letting go and what was the scene

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going on in the dance floor?

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And it's relatively simple.

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Like in the meditation class, it doesn't have to be technical.

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It's not technical.

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We are not solving anything.

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It's just pretty simple tools.

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The first tool I use is called the grounding tool.

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And if you wanted to have access to it, there is a free grounding

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ebook that I have written, so I will put link in the show notes.

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Otherwise just go to artoflifecenter.com/grounding

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and you can get your free copy that explains you how to ground.

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What grounding does, in the dance floor, all that chaos, all the noise, all

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the extra people that are making you feel maybe a little bit claustrophobic

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and you're not liking being around them, it takes all of that away.

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It takes away all the beliefs.

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There'll be stuff that you will know.

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There will be stuff that you don't even know.

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Grounding is just so amazing.

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It just takes everything that is not serving you and just works brilliantly.

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So that's the first step.

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That's what I did with my own pictures around the fear of

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letting go of fear of being alone.

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And then the next thing that we do is we fill in, because once you

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have cleaned the space, then it is the time to create your space.

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In the dance floor that looked really busy, looked very jam-packed,

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and looked as if everybody was on top of each other, very noisy.

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We let all of that go.

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Then we created a nice zen space, peaceful place, and

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decorated it the way you want it.

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In my space, I brought in a lot more laughter.

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It's just playing with energy.

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It's sort of playing with imagination, it's visualization meditation.

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You visualize that this is what's happening.

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I put in some good sparkles of laughter giggles, peace amusement.

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That's always my favorite, and I put in freedom and I put in a lot

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of self-love and unconditional love.

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It's such a simple exercise.

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Essentially that's what happened in the art therapy meditation class.

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And then as I came out of the class, I was like, oh boy, I've released and I just

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feel so much better and I can feel the energy shifted for me as well and where.

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There's a situation going on, and suddenly I was just absolutely neutral

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and I didn't need to react around that.

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So it's super amazing that all of this can just happen with a one hour

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of an art therapy meditation session.

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So, well, whether it's my class or whether it's another meditation class that you

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were doing, I strongly encourage you to have an intention for your session.

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Anything that you wanna work towards, just do that in your meditation

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practice and then just see the results and notice them for yourself.

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Cool.

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All right, the next question is, why does the pain go away with the meditation?

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How does it work?

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I understand this question because logically we sort of know

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that, oh, the fear is not right.

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This is not what you have to do.

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It's okay, but it's sort of hard to come out of it and again and again, at

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least in my life, I was operating from the same fear again and again and again.

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What's really happening in the energetic space or in the spiritual

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space is that we have pictures in our body and in our aura layers.

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Pictures is how we store our memories.

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Pictures is how we store our experiences and also attract more.

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Sometimes a picture will have a negative charge.

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Sometimes it will have a positive charge, like when you had a really fun time.

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Sometimes maybe there were lifetimes that I had where I had been orphaned,

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where I was completely alone and I just had those pictures, and then

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they're really, really charged.

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They've got that negative charge.

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They've got that pull where, you know, more experiences like

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that keep coming because it is a very strong negative charge.

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It just attracts more negative things to it, and then that's why

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for me, the fear was very real.

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But when I ground, when I release, the Earth, gives it positive energy.

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It neutralizes that charge and suddenly the charge and that picture is gone.

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Whatever negative things it was gonna attract, that's gone because the

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picture has now been neutralized.

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, In a sense it was just that your awareness was required.

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You just needed to step on the balcony, watch the dance floor,

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and then just ground the noise out.

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Ground out the stuff that was not serving you, that was not working for you.

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It's just as simple as that.

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The meditation class, it's really simple and fun and playful as well.

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It sounds kind of serious, right?

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Healing your past or other topics as well that I do every month.

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Sometimes they have a very serious tone to them, and then that's the fun bit

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because although it's very serious and very icky stuff that you deal with,

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the whole meditation space is playful.

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It's fun, it's filled with laughter because you are bringing in the vibration

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of a little child, and you are acting from that playful and curious place.

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You're stepping in on the balcony.

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You're not really feeling the emotions, so you're having fun.

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You're playing with colors.

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You are letting art and colors and textures guide you and help you heal.

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You don't have to see everything.

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You don't have to feel everything.

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You step from the dance floor to the balcony and look down at it and then

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go, okay, this is all that I need to clean, and it starts getting cleaned.

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It's very beautiful and amazing that this is all that you need to do in your

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visualization meditation to be able to take such a huge step in your life.

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Like for me if I'd done it a few years ago, whoa my life

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would have been so different.

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The tools are absolutely amazing, what you can get with them, the personal growth

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that you can have and how you can really heal your life and create experiences

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that you like, all of that is amazing.

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And all you need to do for that is step into a meditation class.

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Even with one meditation class, you notice things.

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You notice a shift.

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Cool.

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All right.

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Next question I was asked by another student as well, like I always shared a

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lot of my stories and she wanted to know, well, can you share other examples of

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other student stories as well, because it's really inspirational and she

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wanted to see what happens with others.

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I'll keep the privacy in there and I won't give any student names.

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One of my students, as she was working through this, she recently got fired and

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then right after that, on the weekend was this class around healing your past.

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So she came in with that energy and carrying a lot of

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baggage and feeling frustrated.

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We did the class.

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Then afterwards, I touched base with her.

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She wrote to me and she said that what she realized in the class was that she

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was feeling unworthy and she kept pushing.

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That's what she saw in the class too, that that's what her pictures

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told her when she was coloring that.

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She just tried to keep pushing through.

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There were pictures that she'd drawn of just hands, hands actually

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pushing and that's what that picture or the sketching meant for her,

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that she kept pushing through.

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The class gave her awareness that she didn't need to push this hard.

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She didn't need to push to belong.

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She didn't need to push to feel worthy.

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People who see her worth will realize that.

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She was saying that the class helped her realize how even getting fired was a gift

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that she could see that she wasn't really having a great time at her job anyway.

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But she would keep going and then she would keep complaining about it to her

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friends and partner, but she kept in it because that sort of seemed to be the way.

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The firing was a gift because she did not need that abusive environment for herself.

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And she definitely needed a place where she would be more loved.

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So she came out with understanding about herself, understanding also why that

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experience was there, and really with a lot of gratitude, which is such a gift.

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On that there, there's lots of times where we think about an

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experience, especially a traumatic experience, and we think, oh my God.

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How can God do this to me?

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Or how can the universe do this to me?

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But I'd encourage you to ask a different question.

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I encourage you to ask why is this happening with you?

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And it's not in a negative way, but it's more like what is the lesson

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that you need to learn from your past to be able to move forward?

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Definitely in my own learning, in my own journey, I had to see why I

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was having this pattern where I just kept giving, why I was doing it.

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I had to see that pattern and then I could let it go.

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And for the student as well, she had to realize that her pattern

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was around unworthiness and pushing beyond that to feel worthy.

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In that sense it is a gift because what your spirit is trying to show you, to

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tell you is that, Hey, you know, you see this activity on the dance floor.

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This is the pattern that you are doing.

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Once you see it, it's almost your awareness and just your

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looking that is asked for.

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After that, it's just magical.

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It goes away because that was all that your spirit needed to communicate.

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You've done more than half the work at that stage, and then as you're

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grounding, you can just let go.

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That's such a great thing to be able to heal, to be able to move on

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with your life, to be able to move forward, to be able to create a

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life that you want, that you desire.

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Cool.

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So now for my dear listeners the question that I imagine you would be

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asking as well, how can I heal my life?

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There are a couple of ways for you to heal your own life.

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First of all, I have this class healing your past.

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It is available online to be downloaded right away.

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You can access it, and that's an amazing way to understand patterns

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in your own life and to see what you can do with that, clear that energy

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out and take a massive step forward.

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Your spirit definitely wants you to move forward.

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That's why it's showing you those patterns and showing you that past conditioning.

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So take that call and step in.

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Play for a little while with some art therapy and meditation.

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Play just an hour and then you can heal that pattern.

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You can heal your life.

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So that's one.

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The other thing, I have this ebook called grounding.

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Grounding is amazing.

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I've talked so many times about it.

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It is how you balance out the negative charge in your body with

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the positive charge in the earth.

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You balance out that negative and positive and you just really give a whole lot

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of release and healing to your body.

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You neutralize a lot of the pictures where you're carrying charges, where

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you bring in those negative experiences.

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Just by grounding, you achieve tremendous things.

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I have a free ebook that you can download at Art of life center.com/grounding.

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Then I have another meditation as well, and I'm offering this for free.

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This meditation is art therapy meditation on forgiving yourself, and it is by far

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one of the major meditations that I have experienced personally forgiving yourself.

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For me, forgiving myself was really, really big.

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I used to hold myself guilty for my daughter's passing because she

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passed away as I was sleeping.

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I was pregnant with her at the time, so I had massive guilt pictures

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around how can you sleep like that and what sort of a mother am I,

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you know, all the charged pictures.

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But as I forgave myself, a lot of healing happened.

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I could understand as well why that happened, why she decided to come into my

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life and not decide to come into my life.

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So meditation gave a lot of those answers as well.

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So it is tremendously powerful.

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If there's anything that you feel that you are holding yourself prisoner to, if

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there is some past action, if there's a judgment, if there's any sort of guilt

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or shame, I highly encourage you to download this class, this meditation

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class on forgiving yourself because that could be your doorway to freedom.

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It really freed up and healed me massively.

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So I wanted to give that gift out to you.

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You can find that class at artoflife center.com/meditation classes.

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If you go there, you will find all of my meditation classes, all of my

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art therapy and meditation classes.

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I've kept the forgiving yourself for free because I know it'll be just such

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a huge benefit to the whole world.

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I really hope you enjoy it.

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If you do download it, let me know how it works for you.

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I hope you have some fun while healing yourself, forgiving yourself and

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bringing a lot of freedom in your life.

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So that's it for today.

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this podcast as well, you can just browse through the show notes or you could.

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Also visit the website at artoflifecenter.com.

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That's where you can also find my upcoming classes.

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And of course, you're more than welcome to join me, and

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I would love to see you there.

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So that's it for this time.

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Thank you again for joining me on The Art of Life podcast.

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I will see you next week with a fresh new episode.

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Till then, keep grounding, love your life.

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