Harnessing the Flow: Second Chakra Secrets for Emotional and Sexual Harmony

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In this episode we will talk about the second chakra.

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The second chakra is around emotions and sexuality and it is

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connected with the element of water.

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Water because water is so free flowing And hence your emotions, they can

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be pretty much like that as well.

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They can be a little bit up, they can be a little bit down, right?

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Water needs to flow and all the trapped emotions that you might have, they might

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sit and collect in the second chakra.

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Yeah.

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And that's why when people usually have bloating or stuff that is related to their

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sexual organs, like ovarian cysts, like prostate cancer, endometriosis, vaginal

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infections a lot of that is related with how they are able to express themselves.

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Usually, if they are able to simply express themselves, then a lot of

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these symptoms and these diseases on the outside, they can start healing

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as well, because at the basis of all of this is the stress that's

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caused by these trapped emotions.

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Now let me explore that a little bit.

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The second chakra has the colour orange.

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You could watch it as flaming orange to a nice, settled, pastel orange.

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And that's how emotions are, they can be very flaming, they can be very

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much like, Oh, all over the world.

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And maybe sometimes when someone's expressing, they can either really

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explode or they could just cave in.

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And so as all of that's happening, that's what your second chakra

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is driving the attention towards.

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It just wants the emotions to come out.

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That's why this center is also connected with sexuality because what's more

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emotionally connecting than sex?

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What's more emotionally connecting than your gender identity?

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If you think about it, the first chakra was very much around feeling safe, just

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your identity, being okay as you are.

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And as you start doing that, then you are consistently comparing

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yourself with others and going, Hey, is this person loving me?

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Is this okay?

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Am I fine like this?

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Am I okay to do like this?

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And so on.

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And when you do that, then you start hiding little parts of yourself or

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changing little parts of yourself and that's where the trapped emotions come in.

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So that's why it's a very relational chakra.

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By the way, that's the story with all of our chakras.

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They are very relational.

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And the lesson that we are learning in this life is rather than having them as

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relational, we become our own healers.

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We become our own cheerleaders and we look and heal ourselves.

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So if you look at it in the first chakra, instead of feeling I'm safe

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because someone validated me, because someone liked the paycheck that I earned,

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it's simply going, okay, I like it.

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And it's not comparing with anyone, but it's just telling yourself

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. Your whole chakra system, it's pretty cool, because the more you start exploring

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into all of these chakras, you'll realize how much we have this beautiful

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system within all of us that is actually teaching us self care and looking after

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ourselves and prioritizing ourselves.

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Second chakra is one of the bases for this emotional understanding.

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Instead of thinking that I am loved because this person loves me, I am

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loved because I have so many likes and followers, it's more knowing

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that I am loved because I'm awesome.

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And you are, like you wouldn't be on earth.

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You wouldn't be doing whatever you are doing.

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You really wouldn't be here if you were not needed.

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You're absolutely perfect.

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Absolutely radiant.

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Absolutely required.

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And absolutely as wonderful and gorgeous just the way you are.

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Perfect.

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Just the way you are.

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You are needed exactly the way you are.

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So let's explore an imbalanced second chakra.

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What does that mean?

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What is an imbalanced second chakra?

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The dead giveaway would be if you have trouble expressing your emotions.

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How easy, how comfortable do you find expressing emotions,

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positive ones and negative ones?

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Can you tell someone you love them?

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Have you told your parents anything recently?

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Have you expressed your emotions?

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Have you done that with your kids?

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Have you done that with your loved ones?

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And when you express anger, is that a lot easier for you?

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Like I know growing up for me, expressing negative emotions was a lot easier.

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So that's one clue as well, because it should be balanced both ways, right?

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And at the same time, when I would do it, a lot of times I would just explode.

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But it doesn't have to be like that.

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Now I can really go and express myself calmly a lot of times.

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So can you express yourself calmly?

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Usually on this planet, men find it a lot harder to express their emotions.

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And we brush that away saying that, Oh, they're men, they

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can't express their emotions.

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The truth is that men, when they're feeling really bad.

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safe and loved, eventually they will find a place where they're

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able to express their emotions.

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Maybe not quite in the same way as females, but they will find

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that place to be able to express.

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And there are also men who are able to do that.

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So that's your other clue, whether you are able to express your emotions well or not,

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whether you keep them blocked or whether you're really able to talk about them.

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The other thing to ask obviously is around sex.

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Are you really hiding sexually?

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Do you not want sex?

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Maybe do you want a lot of sex?

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Or do you become someone else during sex?

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Are you okay when you are in that experience?

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Are you enjoying it?

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Are you numb?

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If you are numb, if you are just using it as a means of connection, that could

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be a clue that somewhere you're just craving that connection that you can only

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feel with a sexual experience, but the true connection that your soul craves

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is a far more deeper and intimate one.

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than just the body level experience.

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For that, it just needs a healthy place for emotions to come out, for you to feel

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loved and appreciated the way you are.

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So just think about your sexual encounters and think about the people where you're

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having those experiences as well.

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And give yourself a place where you feel safe and you feel loved

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as you are, especially if you feel like you have to be a certain way

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during the whole experience, then that means that's not your place.

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Somewhere you are not liking the experience because

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you are not okay in that.

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And give yourself that permission that you can just own your body.

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You can just own your space.

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And you can treat yourself well.

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You don't have to undergo something that you don't enjoy.

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Another giveaway for your need for connection could just be looking at

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your daily routine, especially when you don't have work, when you have a little

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bit time on hand, like the weekend.

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A good, healthy second chakra would be where you can just sit down, have

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time with yourself, you really enjoy.

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being alone.

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You enjoy sitting down, having a meal by yourself, maybe meditating, maybe

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going for a walk, but you don't really constantly need people all the time.

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If you are busy on the other hand, if you are just trying to do one activity

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after the other, which is very sad because in today's world, this is what

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we incentivize almost sometimes, just going from one place to the other.

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But if you can have those pauses in between, and if you can sit with

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yourself in those pauses, like not look at your phone, not keep your mind

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busy but if you can just sit down and be with yourself, that is sign of a

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good, balanced, healthy second chakra.

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And the dead giveaway is your self talk with yourself.

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How are you talking with yourself?

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When you look at yourself in the mirror, how are you talking?

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Are you smiling when you look at yourself in the mirror?

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Do you buy things for yourself?

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It doesn't have to be expensive, but do you buy, do you care for yourself?

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We might think of self love as bubble baths, as going out, having a massage,

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but self love is a lot deeper than that.

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Self love is celebrating yourself.

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Self love is liking yourself.

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Self love is batting for yourself.

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Self love is loving yourself, unconditionally, even if you

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have failed, even if you've made a mistake, but self love is.

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That's okay.

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I've got it.

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That is a balanced second chakra.

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If you can do that, then you have a really great chakra.

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. What happens once you start healing your second chakra?

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If your second chakra is healed, you definitely feel a lot happier and at ease

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because what you have done is you are not comparing with others around you.

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You're really looking at yourself and going, Oh, I'm loved.

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It doesn't matter what others are saying to you, but you really have

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that self confidence, resilience, a lot of those traits, they reside,

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they start first in the second chakra.

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If you are wanting to feel just generally more motivated in love with

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life, a healed second chakra is that place to begin feeling those emotions.

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So how do you heal your second chakra?

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The best way is meditate or give yourself that alone time where you

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can just sit with your thoughts, have your emotions come out.

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Because at the basis of your second chakra not feeling great is just trapped

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emotions and they want to come out.

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Healing the second chakra is very much around letting your emotions go, not

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judging them, but just letting them go.

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They'll go like a tap runs, they will just come out and maybe in the

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beginning it will be very dirty water.

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But then as the emotions go out, you'll start finding that the

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vibration just starts raising up.

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When you sit with yourself in a meditation space, or when you go for

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a walk, that's the time where you just allow your emotions to come in.

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And maybe you're feeling angry with something, maybe you're feeling

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frustrated, but let that go and keep bringing yourself to your own center

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and going how much you love yourself.

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So the more you offer love to yourself, all of the bitterness

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will start going away.

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If you wanted to practice this, I do run a moon meditation circle where

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we gather twice a month, of course, during the new moon and full moon.

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And we use this beautiful cosmic energy and art and creativity to

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heal and bring our lives to balance.

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So you're definitely welcome to check that out at ArtofLifeCenter.

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com slash Moon Meditations.

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I would love to see you there.

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The other way that you can also heal your second chakra is simply to start

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saying this affirmation, I'm loved.

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Like telling yourself again and again, I am loved.

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I love myself.

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I am loved.

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I love myself.

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And you will find it is actually quite a revelation in the beginning because

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when I started doing that it felt very foreign telling myself I loved myself.

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There's a lot of inner critic voice, a skeptic voice that

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we hold within ourselves.

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So just saying this takes a lot of that pressure away.

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And then the last and major tip would be just looking after yourself, self care,

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like doing simple things for yourself, not for someone else, but for yourself.

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The way you want to love someone else, do that for yourself.

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Maybe get some candles, maybe have a long shower, maybe buy yourself a

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gift, maybe even write yourself a love letter, but just small or big things

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that you would do for others to express love for them, do that for yourself.

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That is true self care.

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And that's what your second chakra is teaching you.

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Okay, so I hope you've enjoyed this episode.

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I will see you next time in another episode.

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